It is essential to have good roots. To do this, it is very important to establish a relationship on a solid foundation, one that is strong so that when the winds blow, and when the storms come, you are able to stand. If you are not built on a solid foundation, then you will not be able to stand, and most certainly shift, or even fall. The ground will crumble out from underneath you, the winds come and blow you over. The rains come and flood the core of your being. A relationship built on feelings and emotions can never last. Feelings and emotions change like the seasons. Christ alone is a solid foundation and never changes. If you are in a relationship and you realize that the foundation is not strong, it doesn’t have to be the end of the relationship. It’s going to take work, but can be fixed, no differently than if your house foundation was bad. You have to jack the house up, sure the foundation, and replace the structure on top. The couple may need to go get some counseling, talk things out, work on making themselves stronger for the other person. Sure, the house could be plowed in, but it is still a good structure, just needs some support. It is always best to try and fix something. That relationship that is not built on solid foundation may need to end if both parties are not willing to fix the foundation. In this case the relationship certainly has to end. It will never work if only half of the houses’ foundation is secured. If one party thinks that everything is fine, eventually the house is going to shift so much that it caves, or crashes in. Be strong, don’t compromise, and build on a solid foundation. Men and women alike should care more about godliness than superficial qualities. Look for men and women of character that you can spend the rest of your life with. “Therefore, brethren, seek out from among you seven men of good reputation, full of the Holy Spirit and wisdom, whom we may appoint over this business” (Acts 6:3). If you excuse essential faults, they will not be a life match… without MUCH work. If you are in a relationship and the other person does not think that God’s way is best, heed that red flag and run, for it cannot last. “But seek first the kingdom of God and His righteousness, and all these things shall be added to you” (Matthew 6:33).
"Blessed is the man Who walks not in the counsel of the ungodly, Nor stands in the path of sinners, Nor sits in the seat of the scornful; But his delight is in the law of the LORD, And in His law he meditates day and night. He shall be like a tree Planted by the rivers of water, That brings forth its fruit in its season, Whose leaf also shall not wither; And whatever he does shall prosper. The ungodly are not so, But are like the chaff which the wind drives away. Therefore the ungodly shall not stand in the judgment, Nor sinners in the congregation of the righteous. For the LORD knows the way of the righteous, But the way of the ungodly shall perish (Psalm 1:1-6).